Dear BNI,
With movies and magazines catering to the voyeur within each of us, I wonder to what ends these "safe" voyeuristic activities are used? Certainly lovers get together to inspire one another with them. Like Marilyn Chambers' Behind The Green Door. Never has there been a better movie to watch with a woman. I don't know why, but women become uncontrollable sex maniacs as they watch it.
Trust me. I know. I stumbled onto that accidentally. Got it for a woman and me to watch together. Normally we watch to get horny, then play. In the midst of the movie she shouted, "Oh My God I can't stand it anymore," and fell back and began to furiously frig her clit.
After questioning her, she said it was not so much the actual sex of the movie, but the implied rape and force that turned her on so much. The idea of having control taken in such a manner created an intense ache for pleasure in her.
So I tried it with others. Same result. Every time.
Now my situation has changed. No more can I use movies to manipulate women's desires into a particular need. At least not for the time being.
Anyone who knows anything about me knows I now use the telly to sneak peeks up women's skirts and dresses, ogle buttocks and glimpse braless babes bouncing on the screen. And now I have a different perspective on peeping.
I guess it is okay to sit around in the house naked, watching porn and jacking off. A nice tube-a-lube, a small anal toy to enhance the pleasure perhaps, a cock strap to further intensify those delights. It may just be something I try one day.
(A word to the wise. Screw cock rings. You can do better with a home made strap. Get one of those eye glass strings with the pull cord. Or an eye glass strap that is of an elastic nature, and remove the metal snaps. In this manner you can control the degree of tightness without any chance of harm. Unless of course you are into harming your sex center, which is a different story.)
Tom Cardarelli 166-721
PO Box 57, Marion, OH 43301-0057
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Dear BNI,
Well, first porn I saw was magazine porn. Magazines from Sweden late '50s. First moving image porn was a black and white 8mm film in '63, in a back room, with half a dozen other guys. As selling the stuff is highly illegal in the UK even now, you can guess what security was like to get into that back room back in 1963. The film was about ten minutes long, and the two people in it had just been busted for making the film and appearing in it.
Dave Weldon
It was David's idea to have BNI readers send in their earliest memories of watching porn, and I hope that, in memory of David, some of you will share with us your first intimations of immorality.
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Dear BNI,
I have often wondered about those females that said they would never let a man cum in their mouth, but I have to confess I felt the same way until I was eight years old. So who am I to bitch about something that I've done myself? While I don't have it on tablets I carried down from the mountain, I have it on good authority it was delivered under comparable circumstances. Take a look at the November, 1997 issue of Playboy, page 47.
Seems this female felt the same way a lot of other unenlightened females feel about having their husband/boyfriend cum in her mouth. Hell she went as far as to say that it was two years before she put her hand on her husband's cock, and seven years before he finally got her to take his dick in her mouth. (What a dimwit). All this changed one Sunday morning after church services when she was having a pious and sacred conversation about sex with some of the ladies of the congregation.
When one of the ladies told them how much she enjoyed having her husband cum in her mouth, they were aghast (astonished, dumbfounded, overwhelmed, alarmed, appalled, horrified, and/or shocked). She waxed Biblically (that book folks of the church going persuasion [like me] consider authoritative) about as to how the taste wasn't that bad really, and if you swallowed it immediately you wouldn't even taste it (how utterly disgusting when it should be savored like fine wine).
Now I think I had better quote this lady so the readers won't think I made all this up to wind my own clock:
"Reluctantly, I let my husband come in my mouth, making him think (how sneaky can she be) I was just too slow to get out of the way. The next time we had oral sex (she means sucking) I was aroused beyond comprehension. When I went down on him, I had about half his penis in my mouth and was pumping the shaft with my hand. I knew he was coming so I pumped faster (see how quick she caught on) and let him shoot in my mouth. I continued to suck (go girl, go) and he started squirming and said I was killing him (see how good it makes them feel) but I was determined (another has seen the light) to finish the job. It was terrific! At last, after ten years, I had given my husband a real blow job. Now we have more fulfilling sex than ever. I did not know how wonderful it could be until my eyes were opened that Sunday morning after church (another satisfied customer)."
The Playboy Advisor went on to say that in surveys they've seen nine out of ten engage in oral sex and that there has been much less research into the number of women who allow men to cum in their mouth, but in a poll of college students conducted by Playboy in 1996, about 60% of the females that responded said that their men cum in their mouth. I knew there were unbelievers, but I didn't think it was 40%. I'll have to get to work on this in my spare time.
I was happy to hear that a third of the respondents said they swallowed, and another third said "it depends," on what I don't know. I suppose you only swallow the cum of those you love. That would put it in the same category of those women who say they sleep with other men only because they "love and/or respect" them. A whole bunch of office affairs are characterized this way so those involved can clear their consciences without having to go to confession three times a week.
As always, I am ever alert to bring peerless newsworthy enlightenment to those superior beings that read BNI. Please, you be as enthusiastic, and keep me up to date on such things.
Tammy Cole
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Dear BNI,
My friend Dann Lennard sent me a copy of Bust, the Spring/Summer 1997 issue. This issue is dedicated to gals considered to be a Goddess. I eagerly searched through it for photos of Lisa Carver, to no avail. (Rather ironic that while I was reading Bust, BNI arrived, with Dick's strange love letter to Lisa.) No naked babes anywhere, except in an ad, and one nearly naked one included among the wonderful art work by Dame Darcy which adorns an article about Greek Goddesses.
Although this is definitely a feminist publication, I found much interesting and enjoyable reading therein. As a long time fan of Cher and Marianne Faithful, I was interested in the contributions about those ladies. The interview with Tura Satana was good, as were the pieces about Olivia Newton-John, Farrah Fawcett and Wanda Jackson. There are articles of Yoko and Soul sisters and an intriguing look at who a number of gals consider to be a goddess...Joan Jett I can see but Irene Ryan?
What does this have to do with porn? Or sex? Well, nothing about the former. A fair amount about the latter. The most compelling reading in here were the tales of young women who abused their bodies in the name of "living." The original groupie, who is still doing it; the poor young thing who tried all the drugs and every guy she could find; the babe who wanted to be a pirate and more or less did so; and the gal who, "well into her forties could pull off the mini skirt and go-go boots look." Hey, I used to know a woman like that. These are real women, living real lives, and their stories are occasionally amusing, frequently heart-warming, and, all too often, heart wrenching.
Americans can get a 4 issue sub for $14. I recommend that you all do so. Write to: P.O. Box 319 Ansonia Station, NYC, NY 10023.
Rodney Leighton